Saturday, June 28, 2008

All Settled In




So much has changed over the past month. S went through the honeymoon period of becoming a big sister, everything was GREAT. Her natural nurturing personality was in full swing while we were in China, then we got home. I think reality hit her like a ton of bricks. For about a month after we were home, the poor thing had such a hard time. There were many nights I went to bed in tears worried that I had ruined her life :( I know it sounds extreme but going from one to two on no sleep does strange things to your mind :) But then one day she woke up and was right back to being the nuturing, protective big sister I always imagined. All her fears and worries she had been expressing were no longer concerns. Now home for three months, all is at peace, we are all settled into a routine.






And all of my fears....will I be able to love J as much as I love S? Will I be able to give enough to both? Will I be able to give J any extra she may need for her SN without making S feel slighted? Those are gone to. I chose to live in the present and try not to worry to much about tomorrow. I love the saying "Yesterday is History, Tomorrow is a Mystery, Today is a gift, that is why it's called the present." I will do the best I can everyday to give both my girls what they need and try not to worry about my mistakes yesterday or what I will do tomorrow.






These girls are magical. I wish they knew just how special they were to so many people. They bring so much joy to so many people. These days when I find myself so busy, I just remember at the end of every busy day, I am greeted by a precious toddler running with her wobbly legs in such anticipation to reach my arms with a huge smile on her face. And when she gets to me and I scoop her up, she melts into me and snuggles my neck and giggles. And every night after books and J is sleeping, S and I get our special time together snuggling in her bed chatting about our days and what we will dream about that night. And the last words we speak every night are "I love you, don't forget kissing hand, don't forget kissing pocket," then we both kiss the palm of our hands say "Love You" and put our hands together while saying "forever" Can it get any better than that? Some might think it could, but not this mommy :)








For those of you that don't know the story of "The Kissing Hand" and "The Kissing Pocket" look them up on Amazon, they are the best books ever!

Thursday, May 1, 2008

Home One Month!

We have now been home with little Jian Lei for one month. And what a difference one month can make for all of us. DD # 1 came home exhausted, worried, and concerned about this new little being taking up so much attention. She went through a tough time but has come through a shining star as she always has done! She loves Jian Lei so much. She wants to feed her, dress her, bath her because she "wants to know how to take care of her." The other day, Jian Lei had her first boo boo, she fell and her bottom tooth went through her upper lip. As I was sitting on the floor with her just holding her, Shea went into protection mode and showed up with a wet wash cloth, an ice cube, and asked if she should get her a Popsicle :) All the things I have done for her with this time of boo boo. The level of concern and caring she showed her little sister just warmed my heart :) She is an amazing little lady!

In one month, Jian Lei has gone from being barley able to crawl five feet to the robo crawl, crawling up the stairs, and walking, Frankenstein Style :) She has picked up several new words....up, kitty, dog, mama, uh oh, turkey, and done. She is extremely active and busy. She keeps all of us on our toes at all times!

Four weeks ago we were all so sleep deprived it was hard to function. Today, we can't imagine life without this little baby girl. We have been blessed twice with these amazing little girls. They are truly two little miracles! How many people get to experience that in a lift time! We are so lucky!

More photo's below of our first month home.

Thursday, February 28, 2008

TA is HERE!!!!!!!!!

The past few days have been a bit stressful after being notified that our baby girl has a second special need just discovered. I am happy to say with the help of some amazing folks from RQ, my mind has been put at ease, she will be just fine!

I am happy to tell the world that we received our TA today!!! We have tentative travel dates of 3/16 - 3/26. Here we come Jian Lei!

Friday, February 15, 2008

A letter to HTS from Directore Shi at Chenzhou SWI

Hello again from Half the Sky,

The warmer weather seems to be holding and the orphanages we’ve been in
constant contact with are all struggling to return life to something like
normal. We are coming close to completing the needs list
http://halfthesky.org/work/littlemouse.php. If you’ve been concerned about
a particular orphanage and don’t find it on the list, it’s highly likely
that they either have no storm-related needs or they have found help from
local government or another organization. By early next week, I think we
can promise that we’ll have found a way to reach everyone who needs help.

We estimate that total relief funds needed will be around 3 – 3.25 million
yuan RMB (or US$420-450,000). Amazingly, donations continue to come in
from all of you who love the children so. Our days have settled into a
strange rhythm as we go between hearing about the struggles the orphanage
directors are facing and opening the mail and finding your gifts that will
surely make things better. Thanks to this most extraordinary community, we
feel pretty confident now that we will be able to meet all of the
institutions most urgent needs and have some funds left over to ensure
provisions and supplies for a safer (or at least, better prepared) future
for children in institutions.

Today we received a special letter from the director of the Chenzhou
welfare institution. While it’s addressed to Half the Sky, it’s really
for all of you who’ve watched and cared and done so much to help. So
here's a New Year's gift from China to you - the story of the Spring
Festival storms from someone who lives it still.

From Director Shi Xiangqun, Chenzhou – “Love Can Melt the Ice” -

“In late January of 2008, Chenzhou was attacked by an extremely severe
snow disaster which had been rarely seen in history. Influenced by
continuous bad weather, the electricity and water supply were cut off, the
traffic was plagued, so was the communication network. Since Jan 1, there
had been no more electricity and water supply in Chenzhou Children’s
Welfare Institution. Lacking light, heat and water, the life of more than
100 children in the institution had come to a crisis. The children were in
bad need of cotton clothes, quilts, and disposable diapers, etc. Food
supply in the institution faltered. And a lot of trees in the yard had
fallen down. Facing such a situation, leaders of the institution carried
out a series of measures to fight against the snow disaster. And all staff
of the institution took their initiative to be engaged in the
disaster-relief work.

“On Jan 24, 2008, the directors of the institution reported to the
municipal government about the snow disaster, and they managed to get
supplies from the Civil Affairs department, which included staple food,
vegetables, biscuits and some cotton clothes. They also organized the
staff of the institution to purchase needed goods from the markets. These
actions all helped to relieve the huge difficulties brought by the
disaster.

“Since the electricity network of Chenzhou was destroyed in the disaster
and the electricity cutoff lasted for more than 10 days, illuminating and
heating system of the institution couldn’t function normally. So besides
material supply, the institution also made a lot of efforts to ensure the
heat supply. To prevent the babies from frostbite, the institution right
away installed 22 furnaces that burned coal in the babies’ rooms. They
also bought candles at a high price, to light the rooms up. The nannies
put the children in thick clothes and quilts, and they accompanied the
children by their cribs, warmed their quilts with hot-water bags.

“After the water supply was cut off, the institution tried hard to get
enough water for the children’s daily needs. On one hand, they contacted
the company producing purified water to buy bottled water. On the other
hand, they requested the fire fighters to send enough water with fire
engines. They also arranged all staff of the institution, the nannies and
caregivers to fetch water from a well which was 800 meters away from the
institution. It was such a long distance and they also had to go up and
downstairs to carry the water. Plus the bad weather, the wet and slippery
road, many people would fall down on the way and got themselves all wet.
However, none of them made any complaints. They just stood up again and
kept on the work.

“After carrying water back and forth for 20 times a day, many staff got
exhausted by the end of the day, while their effort paid off: they have
ensured the children a normal life during the disaster. When thick snow
and fallen trees blocked the way in the institution, the staff always
worked in time to carry away the snow, fallen branches and leaves, as well
as other garbage, to make sure the traffic in the institution smooth. Due
to the electricity cutoff, the bank was closed, therefore the nannies and
caregivers couldn’t get paid on time and the children’s daily necessities
also couldn’t be purchased in time. As to this problem, the leaders and
staff of the institution have tried to collect money by all means, to buy
all kinds of needed materials, in order to prevent the children from cold
and hunger.

“In China we have an old saying: A friend in need is a friend indeed and
love can help us out of crisis. The Central Committee and the State
Council have attached great importance to the disaster in Chenzhou. We got
many national and international phone calls asking about the situation
here and showing solicitude for children. “When disaster strikes, help
comes from all sides.” The international long-distance call might be
disrupted at any time. We appealed the departments involved to ensure
people can get through to us and also worked to clear snow and ice on the
line, in order to keep contact with the outside world in such bad weather.

“Half the Sky Foundation reached us immediately and paid close attention
to the disaster all the time. Jenny, ZZ [Zhang Zhirong], Jeronia [Jeronia
Muntaner, HTS Infant Nurture Program Director] and HTS field supervisors
inquired about the situation and set about helping us in a variety of
ways.

“In spite of long journey and cold weather, Richard [Richard Bowen]
purchased a batch of disaster-relief goods in Guangdong Province and
headed to Chenzhou which is more than 500km away in a Jeep. He arrived at
our institution at 9pm on Feb. 5, 2008, offering us goods and money. As
there was no electricity supply, he unloaded the goods together with
institution staff by the faint light of candles. His arrival really meant
a lot to us and the disaster-relief goods met our urgent needs. On the
next day, Richard came to the institution early in the morning though he
was pretty tired of the long journey and got detailed information about
our difficulties in the disaster. He tried his best to help us solve some
problems and before he left Chenzhou, he gave us 50,000 yuan and told us
to face the disaster in a strong will. He said Half the Sky Foundation
would strongly support Chenzhou Welfare Institution and never allow any
child get hungry or cold. Yes, in front of natural disaster, there is no
nationality difference in terms of love. True love can melt ice and snow
and all difficulties can be overcome.

“In such a chilly winter, we feel rather warm because of your support and
concern. The word “thanks” cannot express our moving feeling toward the
foundation’s timely help. What we can do is only giving our sincere bless
to all of you.

“Through out the fight against blizzards, all institution staff, Half the
Sky nannies, teachers and caregivers stuck to their posts and performed
their duties. Some people didn’t go home to have a reunion with their
family members on the New Year’s Eve and New Year’s Day. Instead, they
spent the festival with the children. On Feb. 9, 2008, thanks to the
government’s leadership and repair workers’ hard work, the electricity
power in our institution restored. On Feb. 10, 2008, water supply became
normal and the children ushered in a bright Chinese New Year.

“When disaster struck, we didn’t fear or panic, we didn’t shrink back;
what we had was determination, struggle and unity. From the very
beginning, we held the belief that we could get through the disaster, and
finally we did live through 20 days and nights without electricity and
water.

“In the New Year, Director Shi Xiangqun, leading all staff, nannies and
caregivers, would like to give our best regards to all members in Half the
Sky Foundation: Happy New Year! May all your heart’s wishes be fulfilled!
All the best with your work! Live a happy life with your family!”

Tuesday, February 12, 2008

Update on Snowstorm - Chenzhou

Two relief organizations made it to Chenzhou! Operation Blessing and Half The Sky (halfthesky.com)


Half the Sky has an amazing story posted about their visit at:
http://www.halfthesky.org/work/chenzhoustory1.php

Operation Blessing has a blog about their visit at: http://obrelief.spaces.live.com/default.aspx


These organizations are amazing. Because of them and the amazing staff at Chenzhou, all of the children have made it through just fine. Thank you Operation Blessing and Half the Sky!!

Sunday, February 3, 2008

Snowstorm in China

After the pure feeling of joy after receiving our LOA, my thoughts and prayers have turned to the safety and warmth of Jian Lei. There have been massive snow storms in much of China, the hardest hit province is Hunan (Juliana’s province). Half the Sky has been able to make contact with Director Shi. The latest update is they (Chenzhou SWI) have been without power for 10 days, they have 20 ill children at the SWI with no way for help to get there as all transportation has stopped. As this area has not seen weather like this in over 50 years, they are unprepared for it. The SWI is trying to heat with coal and light by candles. Here is the latest update from Jenny Bowen with Half the Sky on the situation in Chenzhou.

“I know you are all so worried about the children in Chenzhou. We have just
talked to Director Shi and I want to give you an update. We will talk to
him at least 2x a day. We are trying to get in tomorrow to bring supplies
but we are not sure that can happen. Here is the news.


First the children. The 20 sick children are being cared for by doctors
from the local hospital (which is closed.) They are receiving IV's and
medicine. Shi assures us that the children will be fine and that they will
recover. They will feed the children and keep them warm no matter what.


There is still no power. Families in Chenzhou are now rationed and can only
buy 4 packages of noodles per family. The Civil Affairs Bureau delivered 3
sacks of rice to the institution. The are using candles but the cost per
candle has gone from 20 cents to 5 yuan per candle. They are using coal to
keep warm but the price of coal is skyrocketing. Two old people at the
institution died. There are 800,000 migrant workers trapped in town that
can't get out to see their families for Spring Festival. They expect
another heavy snow tomorrow.


I will keep you posted, I promise. They know we are trying to help them in
every way.


Take care and hang in there with us please.


Jenny

Jenny Bowen
Executive Director
Half the Sky Foundation
www.halfthesky.org"

I have made contact with a wonderful women in Guanzhou who will be trying to call the director tomorrow to check on Jian Lei for us. I have an over whelming feeling of helplessness for my baby. Please pray for her and all of the children and adults being affected by this disaster.

Thursday, January 31, 2008

We got LOA at 11:45 Today!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You may have already heard
Mei Mei is on the way
We'll bring her home from China
Just counting down the days

Her name is Juliana
She was be born in our hearts
And once she's in our arms
We will never be apart

Friday, January 11, 2008

January 12, 2008 Happy 1st Birthday Jianlei!!

Happy Birthday Baby Girl! Today you turn one! While I am so sad we are
not with you on your special day, I find comfort in knowing we will be
there soon and have a life time of birthdays to come!

We received updated photo's of you, what a priceless gift to receive!
You have changed so much already! Although you have lost the "spikey"
hair, you still have the same sweet, chubby cheeks that I can't wait to
kiss! Until we can come to China to bring you home, we hold you in
our hearts. We hope you have a great birthday!

We love you!!!

Saturday, December 29, 2007

Updated Photo's of Jian Lei!

We just received new photo's of Jian Lei! She has already grown so much! These photo's were taken in the last couple of weeks so she is 11 months old in them.

We pray we will be able to bring her home soon!

Tuesday, December 18, 2007

Update!

It has been a while since my last post. Things are pretty much the same as far as a time line. Our LOI was sent in November 2007, we hope to travel by May 2008 to bring Jian Lei home!

Until then, I have contacted a wonderful women in China that runs a business. And part of that business is organizing and sending care packages to orphanages. I will be sending a birthday package to Jian Lei very soon. This women has contacted the orphanage to confirm the baby is there :) and to ask if they will be able to mail the disposable camera back to her with updated photo's of Jian Lei. The orphanage said they would mail it back as long as their post office will allow. It has to do with batteries?? Then this women will develop them and mail them to us!

In addition, she contacted them to get an update and this is what she said! The best part is in the next few days, I should receive update measurements and photo's of Jian Lei!! What a Christmas gift! Can it get any better?!!

Wishing you all a very happy and safe holiday season!


"Dear ####:

You are very welcome ,i am happy to help you with this !
I made several calls to the orphanage for you today again ,Jian Lei can stand when she touches the wall ,she also can stand and walk when she hold railing, she also can copy some actions of other people too...when she see some new and special toys ,she will observe it carefully, she also can make "da " and "mom " sound ....

I will get her update measurements and her pictures in these couple days too, so what do you want to mail to your Jian Lei? Let me know as soon as possible ,this way ,your lovely jian lei can get her package before Christmas ! Have a wonderful day and talk to you soon. love, Ann"

Monday, November 12, 2007

We have been matched!!!!!!

On June 25, 2007 I posted to our Blog the following:

"If we are meant to bring a SN child home, she is most likely already born and in an orphanage in China waiting for us. We trust what is meant to happen, will happen. I have no doubt Uncle (my brother who passed away in 1999) is watching over this whole process and knows exactly what will happen. And I trust, he knows what is best for us and will see to it that it all goes as plans."

Indeed, she was born and waiting for us at the time of my above post. And Uncle has definitely had a hand in making this match.



Introducing...........


Chen JianLei
DOB: 1/12/07
Currently Residing in Chengzhou Social Welfare Institute Located in Hunan China



JianLei is said to be a healthy and lovely baby. She is active with a ready smile and laughs loudly when tickled. She is s deep sleeper who likes to suck her fingers while going to sleep. She currently has very little hair that stands up on top of her head and no teeth!

DD # 1 is just over the moon with excitement of her new baby sister. She wanted the crib set up immediately, right next to her bed so she "can help her if she is afraid at night" I have no doubt she will be the best big sister ever!

We are hoping to travel to China in the Spring to bring Jianlei home. Until then, please keep her in your thoughts. We are lucky she is in an orphanage that is sponsored by Half The Sky. This is non profit agency that has provided many orphanages with new facilities, infant nurturing programs, Little Sister Pre-schools, Foster Family Villages, water systems for clean drinking water...this list goes on and on. Most importantly, with Half the Sky there, I know Jianlei is receiving the best of care one can receive in an orphanage setting until we can get there to take her home. If you are interested in seeing photo's or learning more about Chenzhou SWI, where JianLei is waiting for us, check out the Half The Sky link on the right side of the Blog.

Pictures coming soon!

Monday, June 25, 2007

Video

This video is a touching reminder of what birth mothers go through in China and the reason we have our little blessing. Please scroll all the way down to the bottom of my blog and click the pause button (located in the upper left hand corner just below the song title) on play list, prior to viewing.




Thursday, June 21, 2007

Approved to Adopt a SN Child

My agency has confirmed that I can switch from NSN (non speical need) to SN (special need)! I had to fill out a medical checklist of what special needs I felt I could handle. After way to much time spent on the Internet researching, meeting with DD #1' pediatrician, and taking many things into consideration, most importantly DD #1, I completed the check list and sent it to my agency on Tuesday June 19th. This check list gives them an idea of what types of special needs I can handle.

What happens next? Come on, just one guess..........give up? We wait. Each agency handles how the SN children are matched with families differently. Some post every list they receive from CCAA for all of their clients to view. Should a family be interested, they let their agency know. If more than one family is interested, the agency decides which family is the best match for the child.

My agency does it a bit differently. When they receive a list of special needs children, they match a child to a family that is able to best care for them and the child's special need. So, my agency knows what special needs I can handle. Should a child become available that fits our family, the childs profile will be sent to me for review. I will then frantically meet with DD #1 pediatrician and any specialists I may need to consult with. I can accept or deny (can't see this happening) the child. Then, more paperwork and waiting. But the current time frame for a SN adoption is about 4-6 months from acceptance to travel. So, still much shorter that the current anticipated 3 year wait for a NSN child.

If we are meant to bring a SN child home, she is most likely already born and in an orphanage in China waiting for us. We trust what is meant to happen, will happen. I have no doubt Uncle (my brother who passed away in 1999) is watching over this whole process and knows exactly what will happen. And I trust, he knows what is best for us and will see to it that it all goes as plans.

Wednesday, June 6, 2007

Well, my original intention was to post an update every month. As you can see, that hasn't happened. Life if busy!

There is no new news, only that the wait seems to continue to get longer. CCAA has just matched famlies with a LID of 11/7/2005. The wait for these familes was 19 months. But when they started the process the wait was 6-9 months. Our LID is 12/26/2006 so there are thousands of families in front of us. Rumors are it could get to 24 months, some saying 36 months. That would get us a referral somewhere between December of 2008 and December of 2009. I am still hoping things will speed up. We waited 14 months for DD #1 and the wait for folks after me and once SARS was under control dropped to 6 months. So, there is always a chance things could speed up.

In the meantime I have contacted my agency to discuss the possibility of looking at their WC (waiting child) lists. The children available on my agencies waiting child list have minor correctable special needs such as a repaired cleft lip and/or palate, skin issues, eye issues......However, with CCAA's new rules in place, they are not sure we qualify to switch from NSN to SN. They are looking into it for me. If I do qualify, and a WC is matched with me, the process is more like 6-8 months.

I do believe there is already a plan in place to bring Mei Mei home. Somewhere in China there is a women that has found out she is pregnant. She has realized keeping the baby is not an option. She does know she will carry the child to term, and do the best she knows how to give her child a good future. Please pray for us, Mei Mei, and her birth mother while we wait.

Tuesday, April 10, 2007

About our LID

The LID is an important piece to this journey because our LID date is when the clock starts ticking as we inch ever so slowly to a referral. We added a counter at the top of the blog so you can see how long we have waited to date. Currently, the wait is about 18 months from LID to referral. If the wait stabilizes, we should receive our referral in June of 2008.

Or the wait could get shorter or longer. If I take my rose colored glasses off, I see the wait could get longer.....put the glasses back on....it could get shorter! I think I will leave them on! Either way, although the wait seems unbearable, especially for DD # 1, the blessing at the end is all worth it!

For DD # 1, I just could not wait to hold her. It is no different this time, I can't wait to hold Mei Mei. But I also can't wait to watch DD #1 meet Mei Mei! She will be the best big sister ever! She is naturally caring, kind, and loves to give hugs, kisses, and cuddle! She already has quite a list of things she plans to "teach" Mei Mei.

The wait has gotten so long, many friends and family have asked "Are you still adopting?" YES YES YES!



We have a LID!

Our LID - December 26, 2006

As a girl I had a common dream to be a mom someday. My baby would have eyes of blue and hair the hue of hay. But now my dreams have been transformed. New visions fill my head. Now the tresses that I long to stroke are raven black instead. And in my dreams those eyes are not so big or blue or round. Now in my dreams they're almond shaped and colored cocoa brown. And in my dreams my arms can stretch across enormous seas. They reach half way 'round the world and hold you close to me. As you grow in your mother's womb, carefully knit together, you're also growing in our hearts where you'll stay forever. And in my dreams the moment that your mother says goodbye, I'll be right there to comfort you and hold you as you cry. Our features may not look alike: We're different as can be. But still I know the Father has created you for me. And though I've not yet seen your face, or held your tiny hands. And though we're half a world apart in very different lands, I'll be right there to get you just as soon as God allows. But til he says the time is right, I give to you this vow. I'll pray for your protection every day on bended knee. For God to hold you in His arms until you're here with me.

Written by: Gayle Leubecher

Thursday, January 11, 2007

1st Post

Due to requests from family and friends to follow our journey to bring Mei Mei home, I am taking my first stab at blogging. We are very early in our process of adopting DD # 2 from China. I will posts updates and journal our trip to China on this site. And hopefully get photos up while in China. We were blessed on November 12, 2002 when DD # 1 was placed in my arms and our hearts forever! I am happy to share our journey this time with family in friend while in China for Mei Mei.

We are DTC (date dossier sent to China) 11/25/06 with no LID (log in date). The LID is critical in terms of getting that clock to begin ticking and closer to Mei Mei! Currently, the wait between LID and a referral (photo and medical info.) is 16 - 18 months. Depending on where you go, some say the wait will stabilize at 16 -18 months, and some the wait could get as long as 2-3 years. Yet others say, things could speed up. I like that scenario best :)

If the wait stabilizes at 16 - 18 months, we would receive our referral between June and August of 2008. We would travel 6-8 weeks after referral in September or October of 2008. At that point DD #1 will be entering 1st grade and will be turning 7 years old! Although I was bummed about the age difference between DD #1 and Mei Mei, I think she may be old enough to remember the sites and sounds of our journey to China to bring Mei Mei home which is a bonus.


With the long wait ahead of us, our motto has become:






Family

Can't Wait to bring you home Jian Lei!


Home one Month!


We Got Her!!!!!!

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